5 things a man needs to remember

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Name

It’s vital that you remember your name. When you hear her say he or him, she’s talking about you. When she says your name, she’s talking to you.

Birthday

Not your birthday, hers. She may not want to discuss her age but her birthday is the most important date on the calendar. Make sure it’s in yours with a reminder alert.

Anniversary

This is your second opportunity for displaying your romantic nature every year – you don’t want to miss it. This is another date to mark in your calendar with a reminder alert.

Planning

Patience may be a virtue but if you want to avoid the frustration of waiting, plan ahead and have something to do – while she’s doing whatever it is that takes so long whenever she’s getting ready.

Listen

If you manage to remember your name, when you hear her say it, give her your undivided attention – and no interrupting. This is how you really show her that she is important to you.

 

Thanks for dropping by, Peter

Birthdays

Birthdays – the more you have of them, the longer you live!

AriesI had one this week, and found myself wondering why we celebrate birthdays.

What is so special about remembering the day you were born?

Perhaps we’re just obsessed with counting the number of orbits we make around the sun.

In case you’re wondering, I’ve successfully completed sixty-two orbits.

Maybe we’re conducting the big countdown to our ‘use-by’ date.

That used to be given as ‘three score years and ten’ – that’s seventy, for those of you that need to google the meaning of the phrase. Now we aren’t so sure. We keep extending the life of the product, in a haphazard sort of way that offers no guarantees.

When we become parents, I think we celebrate the birthdays of our children as a way of extending the joy we experienced when they joined us, and as a way of letting our kids know they are special to us.

As children, I suspect we pick up on the specialness bit, as we enjoy the feeling of being the centre of everyone’s attention on that one day of the year.

For adults, birthdays are one of the few moments in our lives when we feel noticed. On your birthday, people wish you a happy birthday, and you can enjoy celebrating with your friends and family –  it’s even more fun when someone else pays for it.

Then we have the people who don’t want to celebrate, who don’t want anyone to make a fuss about them. I find this behaviour intriguing. I wonder if these guys really are over birthdays or if their behaviour is driven by a sense of not being worthy of our attention or best wishes, even for one day.

There is another group, those who don’t mind all the birthday attention as long as you don’t expect them to acknowledge their actual chronological age – the twenty-one again or perpetually forty crowd.

I enjoy birthdays. I don’t mind acknowledging my age, and it’s fun to be made a fuss of on the 8th of April every year, for no other reason.Birthday

Over to you.

How do you feel about birthdays?

Does it matter if no-one remembers your birthday?

    • What impact does it have on your sense of self-worth?
    • Do you feel disappointed?
    • Why does it matter to you if no-one remembers?

(Pictures from Jumsoft Clipart.)

Thanks for dropping by, Peter